Trust (October 7, 2007)
Trust is an interesting part of the human condition. We always want to know who we can trust. Who will
tell us the truth no matter what the time or circumstance? We spend a lot of energy determining truth
from other people using our instincts to decipher truth from fiction, and every gray striation between the
two. The people we are decoding are mere mortals themselves so truth is as they know it to them, or
deception for a variety of reasons. However, that assessment has little relevance to our individual truth.
Maybe, truth as very little to do with trust, and cannot be connected to what we are looking for in the first
place. Maybe, we want people to deceive us when we are either looking to deceive ourselves, or we are
looking for the nugget that we want to find fault with someone else. Untruths are accepted as long as
the consequence affects someone else, but then we condemn when the result makes us the victim.
So much of what we do daily involves decisions about finding our way through life, and our deep desire
to connect with people who we can trust. However, the energy spent identifying trust in others could be
spent trying to find trust in ourselves. I think most people know the answer before they ask. I think most
people know that they are as much of a culprit as the person they are evaluating. Time, situation, and
place just determine where to place trust that is essential for us at that moment. When the variables of
life shift and turn on us then we find fault in others that we ourselves were just undertaking before the
change in factors. In that vain, trust has very little to do with truth because truth is often used as an
offensive manipulation against someone, or an untruth is a defensive protection against someone using
humanity against us.
Regardless, the energy used to seek people to trust is an exercise in futility. In the end, the people we
trust are people who have the same inward needs as us. When those needs change, then trust leaves
because the actions of one are detrimental to the other. The best approach seems to be finding the
ability to trust yourself, and rely on your feeling to find truth for yourself as defined by you. Factual
truths are relevant to the extent of the lessons of history, but the most important truths are the intangible
ones defined by individuals. The responsibility for truth is then dependent on you to communicate it to
others, not for others to provide truth to you.
(c) kenneth martin
Trust is an interesting part of the human condition. We always want to know who we can trust. Who will
tell us the truth no matter what the time or circumstance? We spend a lot of energy determining truth
from other people using our instincts to decipher truth from fiction, and every gray striation between the
two. The people we are decoding are mere mortals themselves so truth is as they know it to them, or
deception for a variety of reasons. However, that assessment has little relevance to our individual truth.
Maybe, truth as very little to do with trust, and cannot be connected to what we are looking for in the first
place. Maybe, we want people to deceive us when we are either looking to deceive ourselves, or we are
looking for the nugget that we want to find fault with someone else. Untruths are accepted as long as
the consequence affects someone else, but then we condemn when the result makes us the victim.
So much of what we do daily involves decisions about finding our way through life, and our deep desire
to connect with people who we can trust. However, the energy spent identifying trust in others could be
spent trying to find trust in ourselves. I think most people know the answer before they ask. I think most
people know that they are as much of a culprit as the person they are evaluating. Time, situation, and
place just determine where to place trust that is essential for us at that moment. When the variables of
life shift and turn on us then we find fault in others that we ourselves were just undertaking before the
change in factors. In that vain, trust has very little to do with truth because truth is often used as an
offensive manipulation against someone, or an untruth is a defensive protection against someone using
humanity against us.
Regardless, the energy used to seek people to trust is an exercise in futility. In the end, the people we
trust are people who have the same inward needs as us. When those needs change, then trust leaves
because the actions of one are detrimental to the other. The best approach seems to be finding the
ability to trust yourself, and rely on your feeling to find truth for yourself as defined by you. Factual
truths are relevant to the extent of the lessons of history, but the most important truths are the intangible
ones defined by individuals. The responsibility for truth is then dependent on you to communicate it to
others, not for others to provide truth to you.
(c) kenneth martin
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